Question: How Do I tell my boyfriend of 5 years that I don't see a future with him anymore? I feel he is very attached to me, and is smothering me all the time. Over the year or so, I don’t feel like I am in love with him anymore. What do I do? (San Jose, CA)
Social Shrink: Now, that is a tough situation to be in. It’s going to be hard on him regardless, but you have to be honest with him. I would suggest that you do sit down with him and tell him how you have been feeling lately and the things that are bothering you. Communication is always key. If you want some time apart to figure things out for yourself, then tell him. He has a right to know.
If you plan to break up with him, expect him to be upset, but this is something that you have to deal with, because it is also your happiness in the end. I wouldn’t try to use anything like “let’s still be friends” because in reality, you guys have always been something more and you both will need your time apart. Remember to be true to yourself! But do it soon, the more you drag it out the more resentful he will be. It's better to tell him now before it gets harder!