|Beer pong as a 40 year old anyone?|
Question: I'm a 32 year old guy and lately I've noticed I've been going out to bars/clubs more than my friends that are my age. Some of my friends are married or have kids, and those that aren't don't like going out and drinking. I don't go out every weekend or go out and get ish-faced like my college days. I usually go out with friends that are a few years younger than me and just like to go out and have a good time. However, when I do go out to the bars, I've noticed the crowd getting younger and younger (either that, or I'm just getting older). Is it sad that I'm going out to the bars at this age? How old is too old? (Las Vegas, NV)
Social Shrink: How old is too old? Well, that depends. If you're going out because you enjoy hanging out with your friends, then you're never too old for that!
I'm sure your friends know your age and if they are okay with grabbing drinks at a bar/lounge/club with you then all the better for you! How is the rest of your life going? Are you working/looking for work or doing something productive with the rest of your time? Or, are you living at home and off of your parents? You say you partied in you college days. Just as long as you're not returning to those same frat parties at this age or hitting on the 17 or 18 year old freshmen girls while you’re 32, you are still young and can have fun.
When it comes to what you do when you’re out at the bars and clubs, we hope you are not one of the sketchy guys who creeps up on girls no matter what their age, asking for their phone numbers right off the bat, or are trying to get newly-turned 21 year olds drunk enough to go home with you. That is inappropriate no matter what age you are. If you keep it classy and talk to girls here and there, take a few shots with your friends, and dance a bit to your favorite songs - that is harmless and you shouldn’t feel worried about that. 32 does not come with a set of ‘do’s’ and ‘don’ts’ when you’re out having fun – just keep the keg stands and urges to play flip cup where it belongs: in your memories of your college days.
If all you do during the day is wake up hung-over in your parents' basement, asking your parents for an allowance, or waking up next to a girl that you don’t remember going home with, then you should probably pause, take a step back, reassess your situation, and concentrate on something other than the partying.
If you are established (as in you have a job, supporting yourself, have place to live, etc.), then going out to hang out with friends at a lounge, bar or club is a good release after a long week – you deserve it! You are working hard and playing hard and that is something everyone should live by at any age.
Eventually, you will grow out of this partying phase but why not live it up while you can.
As the great Jay-Z once said, "30 is the new 20!"