FIRST DANCE: We need help picking a wedding song!

Question:  Me and my fiancé are getting married in a few months.  All the details are coming together but there is one thing we are stressing out about… picking a wedding song!  The truth is, we never had a “song” while we were dating and now we’re stuck picking a random one to dance to.  Ideally it would be a fairly recent song that many people would be familiar with (90s or newer) and we both love R&B music, so preferably in that genre.  How do we pick a song that has meaning but isn’t too cheesy?  Any recommendations? (Chicago, IL)

Social Shrink:  Congratulations on your pending nuptials!  Choosing a song for your “First Dance” can be exciting and fun for both of you.  We agree that avoiding a song that is too cheesy is the right approach.  Finding one that has the right touch of meaning, emotion and timelessness will make your first dance that much more memorable.

Since both of you would like a well-known/classic song from either the 90’s or recent and somewhere in the R&B category, we have divided some recommendations in the following categories below.  Take a look and see if these get your wheels turning in your head and you find one that calls out to you both.

EMOTIONAL SONGS (you’ll want to cry while you dance)

All-4-One – So Much In Love

Babyface & Mariah Carey - Everytime I Close My Eyes

Eric Benét & Tamia - Spend My Life with You

K-Ci and Jojo  - All My Life

SING-A-LONG! (you’ll want to belt out the lyrics while you dance)

All-4-One - I Swear

Jason Mraz – I’m Yours

Mariah Carey – Thank God I Found You

LOVEY DOVEY SONGS (everyone will go ‘awww’ while you dance)

Alicia Keys – If I Ain’t Got You

Bruno Mars – Just the Way You Are

Maxwell – Pretty Wings

Ne-Yo- Part of the List

EPIC SONGS (timeless and larger-than-life songs!)

Justin Timberlake & Beyonce – Until the End of Time

Whitney Houston – Greatest Love

Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You

THROWBACKS (a nod to the R&B groups of the 90’s!)

Dru Hill - These Are the Times

Jodeci - Luv U 4 Life

Milestone (Babyface, After 7, K-Ci & Jojo) - I Care About You

Did we miss any? Share with us your picks in the comments section!