Social Shrink: That is a great question! First off, I do want to thank you for this question because I’m sure everyone has thought about it or hesitated about online dating. BUT, let’s be real, this is the 21st century. This is the age of social networking and people are spending way more time on the computer and on the internet than before. We do everything on the computer: pay bills, shop, talk to other people, so why not just try dating??? Check out these online dating statistics (source at bottom):
- 1 in 5 singles have had a relationship with someone they met on a website.
- For singles who use dating websites 33% form a relationship
- The gender split of online daters is 50-50.
You have nothing to lose. I can understand your concerns with not having that type of initial face-to-face interaction, however, you also do get to know them in a different way. When it's online, if you don’t like them when talking to them via e-mail, you can just stop sending them messages (and never even have to meet them)! You can browse profiles in the comfort of your own home. You can screen people based on their spelling errors and grammar. After a few e-mail exchanges, if it doesn't work out you can just hit 'delete' and move onto the next profile. I know it's been awhile since you dated, but I think this will help you ease back in to the dating world.
If you are concerned about who they really are or what they really look like, I know people do embellish on the internet, but if their personality is the right fit, you can take that chance and meet in person when you're ready. All in all, it’s time to have an open mind and give another outlet or source a try.
If you are searching for a long term relationship, I would try credible sites like eHarmony or Match.com. If you're ready to be serious with someone and you can remove the stigma you've placed on such dating sites, the odds of you finding someone are in your favor. Having the right attittude and approach is most important when signing up for these sites. Sign up fpr a site that best suits what you're looking for, take your time, and get your friends to help you navigate through the website. Just take baby steps and hopefully those steps will lead you to the right man!
For more information, check these out:
- Looking for a Date? A Site Suggests You Check the Data (New York Times, 2/10)
- Online Dating Facts and Stats (Fred Thornton, 11/10)