Question: I started dating my girlfriend 3 months ago. She's always had a lot of guy friends (and I'm not a jealous guy, I don't think), but over this past weekend one of her guys friends who lives out of town went to visit her and gave her a present for no reason. What should I think of it? (Phoenix, AZ)
Social Shrink: It's probably safe to assume that you girlfriend only has out with guys simply because she doesn't get along with girls. There's less drama when she's just friends with the guys and you can't blame her for that. If she sees them as anything more and you're concerned about it, you should talk to her about it. This also applies if you feel that her friends may see her as more than just a girl they hang out with.
In terms of the one guy friend that went to visit her and gave her the gift - maybe there is a reason for the gift so you don't need to jump to any conclusions just yet. If you sense that there is something other than "friendship" going on then confront your girlfriend ASAP - don't let your feelings boil over into something worse. She should be open and communicate with you.
Maybe she can compromise hanging out with him all the time and perhaps back off from him to consider your feelings as well. You could also hang out with them in a group and then you would be able to have a good feel of what the intentions really are. If this is a situation where you do feel like there are other guys trying to be with your girlfriend then you have to evaluate how much you can really tolerate, and if your girlfriend is willing to consider your feelings. If there is no compromise either by you or her then it may just be better to let her go. If you are the one truly being jealous, you need to have that trust or else this relationship will not last long at all. The last thing any girl wants is a jealous boyfriend.